After reading Clayton Christensen’s “How Will You Measure Your Life?”, I’ve been thinking about the topic of friendship quite frequently, especially since it’s been three years since I’ve graduated from high school.
In the book, Christensen describes family and friends as the key source of happiness in a person’s life, and he goes on to explain that as many people grow older, they tend to segment their friends. For instance, people have a certain group of friends in middle and high school, and when they gain new friends in college, they tend to move on from their previous group of friends.
I wish this wasn’t the case. I’ve realized that this has happened in my life as well, and I’m kinda bummed about it. There’s about a handful of friends from high school I still speak with frequently and that we’ve remained close.
Reid Hoffman explained it perfectly in “The Startup of You”.
“How Many Allies and Weak Connections Can You Have?”
Imagine you receive a digital camera with a built-in memory card for your birthday. You bring it on a six-month trip to Africa where you won’t have access to a computer—so all the photos you want to keep must fit on that one memory card. When you first arrive you snap photos freely, and maybe even record some short videos. But after a month or so, the memory card starts filling up. Now you’re forced to be more judicious in deciding how to use that storage. You might take fewer pictures. You might decide to reduce the quality/resolution of the photos you do take in order to fit more. You’ll probably cut back on videos. Still, inevitably, you’ll hit capacity, at which point if you wish to take new photos you’ll have to delete old ones. Just as a digital camera cannot store an infinite number of photos and videos, you cannot maintain an infinite number of relationships. Which is why, even if you are judicious about your choices, at some point you hit a limit, and any new relationship means sacrificing an old one.”
Excerpt From: Reid Hoffman. “The Start-Up of You.” iBooks. https://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewBook?id=65A0459F5D1B8E3558EF4883BEA7F1F5
Perhaps sacrifice is necessary in order to maintain the new relationships that we form. I just wonder if someday certain old relationships can be rebuilt on a new foundation.
Belgium vs. Team USA: As it happened on Twitter
Football is a cruel game.
Just when you start to believe, when you think the impossible just might be possible, your soul gets ripped right out of your body, and you remember you have to walk home in a full Captain America costume. The worst.
The United States men’s national team loss to Belgium in extra-time on Tuesday was the most painful kind of torture. For 90 minutes, we watched Tim Howard save the USA time and time again, putting forth arguably the greatest goalkeeping performance ever at a World Cup, only for it to all fall apart in extra-time. Just like four years ago.
But after the heartbreak, there was pride and hope; pride that the team wouldn’t ever, ever quit, and hope that in 2018, this team will be even stronger, and encourage even more belief. One team, one nation:
So proud of our team. So proud of our fans. So proud of our country !! Thanks to everyone for the amazing support !! #OneNationOneTeam— Jürgen Klinsmann (@J_Klinsmann)July 2, 2014
If you still have the mental and emotional capacity to do so, take a look at how America followed the USA’s thrilling 2-1 loss in the Round of 16:
THE GAME BEFORE THE GAME
The United States hadn’t even taken the field for warmups yet, when our blood pressure was already over 160. The heart-stopping finish between Argentina and Switzerland — Angel di Maria’s winner deep into extra time sent the Albiceleste through — should probably have told us that this was going to be a long, long day:
The Pope is most CERTAINLY an Argentine!!!!! Divine guidance saving #Argentina!— Ray Hudson (@RayHudson)July 1, 2014
Heard Messi made the game winning pass! That’s my type of play/er. Win, loss, draw u make the right play to help your team be successful
— LeBron James (@KingJames) July 1, 2014— FOX Soccer (@FOXSoccer)July 1, 2014
THE FIRST HALF
Oh NO! The first sign that the United States were in trouble:
Have to admit I’m a USA fan today— Wayne Rooney (@WayneRooney)July 1, 2014
— Pitbull (@pitbull)July 1, 2014
Anyone still wondering if soccer has “made it” in America?— U.S. Soccer (@ussoccer)July 1, 2014
A pitch invader makes an appearance:
Alarming lack of security in this stadium on the field right now.— Grant Wahl (@GrantWahl)July 1, 2014
Landon Donovan, please get off the field.— TEDDY GOOALSEVELT (@edsbs)July 1, 2014
Purposeless pitch invasion. It was likely an England player.— Russell Brand (@rustyrockets)July 1, 2014
Game pauses briefly as Manuel Neuer runs onto the middle of the pitch.— Brian Phillips (@runofplay)July 1, 2014
More bad news, Fabian Johnson is hurt:
Not good. Fabian has been one of our best.— Rob Stone (@RobStoneONFOX)July 1, 2014
Huge moment for 20-year-old DeAndre Yedlin. Has to contain Hazard now. Johnson might have been most important US player this game.— Grant Wahl (@GrantWahl)July 1, 2014
USA you can have my hamstrings I don’t really need em anyway— Kayla Knapp (@KaylaKnappFOX)July 1, 2014
— Arizona Cardinals (@AZCardinals) July 1, 2014
Madeleine Albright with some wise words for the USA:— Madeleine Albright (@madeleine)July 1, 2014
And England legend Gary Lineker perfectly summarizes the play thus far:
It’s open, yet tight. Some would say that’s the perfect combination.— Gary Lineker (@GaryLineker)July 1, 2014
THE SECOND HALF
All Belgium, all of the time:
Bend, don’t break. #USMNT— Alexi Lalas (@AlexiLalas)July 1, 2014
So, I guess that’s the difference between the Premier League and MLS— Matteo Bonetti (@TheCalcioGuy)July 1, 2014
The US is riding its luck. And your luck. And anyone else’s luck it can find.— Sam Borden (@SamBorden)July 1, 2014
— Andre Agassi (@AndreAgassi)July 1, 2014
TIM. HOWARD. #USA— FOX Sports (@FOXSports)July 1, 2014
Timmy Howard is like a warm blanket on a cold night— Mike Magee (@magee9)July 1, 2014
This…. pic.twitter.com/omL62XmJfj— Football Funnys (@FootballFunnys)July 1, 2014
Tim Howard could’ve saved my parents’ marriage.— Jensen Karp (@JensenClan88)July 1, 2014
— Squawka Football (@Squawka)July 1, 2014
Timmy!!!!!!— Brian McBride (@BMcBride20)July 1, 2014
Naming my baby girl Tim Howard.— Cupid Valentino (@mylestanzer)July 1, 2014
There’s nobody in Tim Howard’s mentions, because he’s blocking everyone.— Mike Prada (@MikePradaSBN)July 1, 2014
Someone changed the US Secretary of Defence on Wikipedia to Tim Howard. Fantastic. pic.twitter.com/haPrHWPLjx— Cam (@_camwba)July 1, 2014
So, which NHL team is going to sign Tim Howard in free agency?— FOX Sports Live (@FOXSportsLive)July 1, 2014
Howard is a beast! Let’s see some offense.— Joseph Montana (@JoeMontana)July 1, 2014